Blended Families... Can Face Rapids and Rough Waters
Listen to the 'GUIDE' as to how to maneuver the rocks.
We've had some tremendous vacations as a Family. We wrote recently of 'vacating' and it's 'bonding power', because you are 'away, alone and accepting'. I can't stress the power of 'vacation' as a means to discovering each other and finding blessings and bonds in that time.
One 'Christmas vacation' was a small cabin, at a closed for the winter YMCA camp, just us, that left us with some great memories of 'owning' the Grand Lodge Hall, which we used to produce fun that was captured in video and will echo for decades.
A 'Tradition' of stopping at Metropolis, IL and getting a picture with Superman lives on even today. Great joy in youth, 'oh Dad' in teen years.Our memory of visiting Washington DC for the 4th of July fireworks. Remembering checking in through super tight post 9/11 security, sitting three hours in the intermittent rain on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial. Then to see the skies clear, and the DC Mall ablaze in a patriotic spectacular. Voted all time best fireworks display by the family.
In stepfamily dynamics you can be assured that there will be some 'rough waters', some turbulence, some 'hold on to your seat' places. Often just simply due to the 'unknown' of what sometimes lies ahead on your family journey. Stepfamilies often feel like the 'waters are moving fast', that they are 'swept under', that the 'rocks' are seemingly going to 'sink their ship' or the 'marriage or stepfamily raft of life'. Of this you can be assured. Those rocks will be ahead. The waters will swirl and splash. The whitewater may try to 'throw you off the boat'. In fact there are usually forces at work 'hoping' you'll be crushed, toppled or even die as a family unit. Sometime former relationships and wounds will 'reach in' to your family. Foremost remember that satan is real. He wants marriages, children, families...all life to be miserable. It's a fact.
God gave YOU and I a message of ENCOURAGEMENT AND HOPE 'for such a time as this'. In our weak moments, our 'I can't do this' moments, our 'I am going down' moments... read this, repeat this promise of God. Yes...it is GOD'S PROMISE, not mine, Dr. Phil's, Oprah's or anyone elses...it's God personal commitment and PROMISE to YOU!
Isaiah 43 : 2 shares in Scripture (NIV):
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have summoned you by name; you are mine.When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
The MESSAGE, another Bible version shares it this way...
You see, God offers to be your GUIDE in life. He knows best how to 'steer' through the rough waters, the rocks and the challenges. In the picture above our 'GUIDE' is the only person visible. Our family is 'below the water' so to speak, yet the 'guide' knows exactly how to lead us out of the rough waters. I put my family's 'trust' in her hands. People in general seem to only turn to God, to put their trust in Him, during times of catastrophe, serious illness or near death situation. At The Bonded Family, we suggest turning to Him every day. Giving thanks when the water is smooth and from where He's taken us already, asking Him to be with us in the journey ahead. Not just in a crisis. THE MESSAGE OF THIS BLOG.... LET GOD BE YOUR GUIDE IN YOUR BLENDED FAMILY. Our research, data, experiences with thousands and success statistics prove it true. If you think you know a 'smarter' way... perhaps you should check out this page on our website. http://www.thebondedfamily.com/lifeinstructionmanual"Don't be afraid, I've redeemed you, I've called your name. You're mine.
When you're in over your head, I'll be there with you.
When you're in rough waters, you will not go down.
When you're between a rock and a hard place,
it won't be a dead end—
Because I am God, your personal God..."
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